Q: Three different times last week I found myself disconnected from my work. Essentially, I wasn’t really in the room.
A: I’m glad you are aware of that. Were you aware in the session or did you figure it out afterward?

Q: How do you respond to a client’s general questionings?
A: Anyway you want to: be serious, get creative, lie, tell the truth. Keep putting the attention back on the person and work with the responses.

Q: She wants me to help her break through her denial. What exactly is denial?

A: Denial is a refusal to admit or recognize an occurrence or possibility. I don’t know about you, but denial is the preferred state for many of us (not me, of course) when we don’t want to deal with reality, our terror, or the possibility of change. To create an enactment, think reflexively.

Q: Sometimes I can’t think of anything to do in session and I feel helpless.
A: When you don’t know what to do in session, choose one of two things:

Q: I haven’t a clue what to work on with this person. There is so much that I have no idea where to begin.
A: Sometimes your psyche tells you, “Stop working so hard. Let the other person do the work.” In this case, capitalize on the fact that you haven’t a clue. Figure out a way to invite the other guy to begin.

Q: This man is like a gnat, all over the place.
A: And you are bugged, right?